Dear Friend,
It is not pleasant to find yourself in this position. I know what I am talking about because I have been there! Divorce causes so much pain, anger and even murder and revenge. It is an evil and destructive process which tears people apart and inflicts emotional and physical suffering on millions of families each year.
Why? What is the cause of this awful thing? It is simply the hardness of the human heart. Please take your time reading through this study because my prayer is that in doing so God will show the answer to you and make a way where there is no way for you to escape the sufferings that divorce inflicts so many people with.
For you to understand this
phenomenon we need to start at the beginning. God did not intend people to
break up. He wanted a life-long relationship between one man and one
woman.
THE FIRST MARRIAGE
You have probably heard or read of someone making this
statement. “Theirs is a marriage made in
heaven.” Well, the first marriage was instituted and
conducted by the God of heaven and He intended it to last
forever.
GENESIS 1:27-28
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
Jesus approved of marriage for he worked his first miracle at a wedding in Cana, Galilee where he turned water into wine. JOHN chapter two.
So what went wrong in your
case? Before we look into the possibilities please examine the following
section on divorce. We have now seen the ideal of marriage and here
follows the other side of the
coin.
DIVORCE
MATTHEW
19:3-8
The
Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it
lawful for a man to put away his wife for every
cause?
And he answered and
said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them
male and female,
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh
INTERPRETATION:
Shall leave his father and mother - This means, shall bind himself more strongly to his wife than he was to his father or mother. The marriage connection is the most tender and endearing of all human relations more tender than even that bond which unites us to a parent.
And shall cleave unto his wife -
The word
“cleave” denotes a union of the firmest kind. It is in the original taken
from gluing, and means so firmly to adhere together that nothing can
separate
them.
They twain shall be one flesh - That is, they two, or they that were two, shall be united as one - one in law, in feeling, in interest, in affection. They shall no longer have separate interests, but shall act in all things as if they were one - animated by one soul and one wish. The argument of Jesus here is, that since they are so intimately united as to be one, and since in the beginning God made but one woman for one man, it follows that they cannot be separated but by the authority of God. Man may not put away his wife for every cause. What God has joined together man may not put asunder.
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one
flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
asunder.
They say unto him,
Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put
her away
He saith unto them, Moses because of the
hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the
beginning it was not
so.
THERE IS ONLY ONE REASON FOR DIVORCE
MATTHEW 19:9
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This is the only reason for divorce and
even then if possible, reconciliation should be sought. If you have tried
everything and your spouse does not agree then you are free to be divorced
and to seek another wife or
husband.
The only people who win in divorce cases are the lawyers. The couple always pay a price of another kind other than money. There is the hurt, anger and all the other emotions that go with divorce and only God can heal a broken heart. I know. I have been there.
MY
STORY
When my wife started divorce proceedings
against me I was really angry and actually hated her for what she did. I
repaid her or so I thought, with incredible schemes that cost her a
great deal of money but I never received the satisfaction I imagined
I would. It was a “hollow victory.” My life was a misery and all I could
think of was about her. She hurt me so badly and the pain and rejection
was unbearable.
The two most important things I learned there were
I had to forgive here
She was hurting too.
I could not see her hurt but here I learned that she was
hurting. You see there are no winners. In February of 2001 I wrote her a
letter. She refused to speak to me and each time I called her she would
replace the receiver and cut off the call. The only way was to write and I
simply told her that I had forgiven her for everything and asked her to
forgive me. It was as simple as
that.
I cannot say when the healing came to me.
I cannot say if it was two or three or six months but one day when I
thought about her I discovered that those hateful and painful feelings had
left me. I was free. Jesus Christ had set me free. Soon after that He
called me into full-time ministry and one of the tasks He has asked me to perform is
to minister to people like
you.
Dear friend only Jesus can heal that broken heart of yours just like He healed mine. However you will require support and help from people who are non-judgemental, helpful and loving.
"Jesus wants to set you free and heal your broken heart!"
Would you like him to heal your broken heart and set you free
to carry on with your life?
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May God pour out His abundant mercies and grace
over your life and your loved ones and bring victory into your life to His
praise and glory. When He does this please send me an email so that I can
rejoice with you and give praise unto our Lord. God bless you
richly.
Jerome
Only God can
heal a broken
heart!
Allow him to heal yours!